1. I give a shit about what I eat, even when it takes effort. I make very informed choices about what I choose to put in my body on a meal-by-meal basis. I’m always aware of what I’m eating and how much I’m consuming. I recognize that my body is an instrument and that food is its fuel. I’m honest with myself when I eat like crap. And instead of feeling guilty, I admit my pleasure in the moment.
I know that what other people eat is not my business. Everyone is struggling on their own, and I’m not here to proselytize.
2. I own it. My lifestyle is my responsibility and mine alone. My health and well-being are in my hands, and I don’t make other people responsible for meeting my nutritional needs.
When I engage in bad or lazy habits, I acknowledge them freely. I readily concede that I’m consciously choosing to do something that’s bad for me. This allows me to avoid the cycle of guilt that leads to more bad choices, and I’m able to correct course within a day or two.
3. You don’t scare me. I’m never ashamed to speak up and express my feelings about something. I don’t talk about people who aren’t present and I don’t misrepresent myself or others. This allows me to have a deep-seated inner confidence that few possess. The confidence of a skinny bitch.
I guard my heart so my words reflect my values.
I have nothing to fear and no need to explain myself. When I do hurt someone, I apologize right away and clear up any misunderstandings or bad feelings.
I’m not afraid of admitting fault. Try to top that.
4. I have freaking high standards. I know I’m the average of the 5 people I interact with most and I don’t take that lightly. My circle is full of awesome and inspiring people. They get me. They love me. And I love them back with all my gusto.
I only have room in my schedule for projects and people that inspire me and make my life better. No exceptions. If you’re a person who brings me down—in any way—don’t expect to spend time with me—even if we’re related.
5. I know how to SHUT IT DOWN. I say no to things I don’t want to do. Even when I feel like I should do them or could do them. I don’t agree to anything I’m not comfortable with. I don’t hang out with people (including family members) who belittle me or disrespect my time in any way. And I don’t have to be aggressive or confrontational to achieve this result. I have my own methods.
6. I’m not fake. I don’t need bravado to feel strong. I won’t bend myself to fit in. I won’t hustle for your approval. What I will do is stand calm and firm in my own shoes, in my own sacred space. You’ll have to take me as I am—flawed and vulnerable. If all my realness makes you uncomfortable, you’re probably not ready to be my friend.
7. I don’t do drama. My goal is a great life full of great people. That leaves little room for your crap. I don’t put up with problematic people or situations. Period. When I find myself tolerating something or someone, I find a way to resolve it as soon as possible.
8. I’m a skinny bitch, not bitchy bitch. On a daily basis, I strive to leave people and situations better than I find them. We come in all sorts of beautiful colors and shapes and lifestyles and histories. We all have something meaningful to contribute, no matter how different we may be.
For the skinny bitch, kindness reigns supreme.